Heartbreak Isn’t the End — It’s the Initiation
Most people think heartbreak is only about losing someone.
It isn’t.
Heartbreak dismantles the inner architecture that shaped how you loved, trusted, and made sense of your world.
It brings old wounds to the surface.
It exposes everything inside you that has never been digested or resolved.
It forces you to confront emotional truths you’ve avoided for decades.
Heartbreak is not an event.
It is an initiation.
And most people have no idea how to move through it.
They numb themselves.
They dissociate.
They shut down their bodies.
They keep chasing the person who hurt them.
They cling to the fantasy of what could have been.
They scroll through social media until their brains go numb.
They get stuck in cycles of longing, fixation, self-doubt, and emotional paralysis.
They don’t realize heartbreak isn’t something to “get over.”
It’s something to move through.
To digest.
To transform.
To turn into a new emotional foundation.
This is the work I teach.
Because I’ve lived it.
The Real Reason Heartbreak Hurts So Much
Heartbreak isn’t just psychological.
It’s somatic, emotional, spiritual — and profoundly biochemical.
You’re not only suffering because of what happened recently.
You are suffering because heartbreak activates:
Unconscious childhood wounds
- old abandonment fear
- unresolved emotional memories
- ancestral patterns
- attachment trauma
The neurochemical crash that follows emotional loss
the sudden drop in dopamine, oxytocin, and other bonding chemistry that destabilizes your entire system
Longing that has lived in your psyche and nervous system for decades
the parts of you that have never been seen, loved, or chosen
Heartbreak exposes what has been buried your entire life.
That’s why the pain feels overwhelming.
You’re not just in crisis —
you’re undergoing an essential process of initiation.
And initiations require guidance, structure, and emotional containment.
That is what this course provides.
What This Course Will Do for You
This course will take you from emotional collapse to emotional resilience.
Dismantle the trauma bond and obsessive thinking
You will reclaim — or develop for the first time — your presence, clarity, and emotional center.
Your mental looping will gradually quiet down.
Your nervous system will calm.
You’ll feel a deeper sense of grounding and stability as your authentic core grows stronger.
Transform and digest the pain stored in your body
Heartbreak lives in your chest, diaphragm, gut, and even your brain.
The emotions stored in these areas are brought to the surface so they can finally be metabolized.
Heal the root wounds behind the heartbreak
Abandonment, unworthiness, invisibility, fear of loss —
you begin to unwind the patterns that keep hurting you.
Reset your attachment system
You learn to feel safe again inside your own emotional world, which becomes the foundation for feeling safer, clearer, and more grounded in your relationships — especially intimate ones.
Transform the relational habits that sabotage you
As you heal, you gradually begin to:
- Let go of unavailable partners
- Move beyond hot-and-cold dynamics
- Stop over-functioning or emotionally caretaking
- Stay rooted in yourself instead of losing your center in relationships
Rebuild your emotional foundation
You become grounded, centered, and emotionally secure.
Become a match for healthy, reciprocal love
Not intensity.
Not longing.
Not fantasy or potential.
Real intimacy.
Real connection.
Real compatibility.
Who This Course Is For
Scared you'll never heal? Exhausted by shallow and useless advice?
This course is for you if:
You’re heartbroken and emotionally strung out on someone you can’t get over
You feel overwhelmed, destabilized, or unable to regain your center.
You’ve tried everything but still feel stuck
Insight hasn’t helped. Distraction hasn’t helped. Nothing touches the deeper layers.
You keep attracting the same partners over and over
Unavailable, inconsistent, emotionally unstable — or people who ignite old wounds.
You feel consumed with anxiety, grief, sadness, or emotional hurt
Your system won’t settle, no matter what you do.
You want to free yourself from debilitating emotional and relational patterns
Patterns rooted in early trauma, abandonment, inconsistency, or emotional neglect.
You want to transform yourself from the inside out and build an entirely new foundation
Not bandaids. Not coping strategies. Real internal change.
You want deep, lasting healing — not surface-level advice
You’re ready for something that actually reaches the core.
You want guidance grounded in lived experience, not theory
You want someone who has walked this path and understands the terrain intimately.
You’re ready to turn your suffering into growth — and to move through this process with clarity, presence, and emotional strength.
This course is NOT for you if:
You want a quick fix
You avoid facing the issues that need to be dealt with
You’re not willing to feel
You’re looking for surface-level techniques
You’re not committed to transformation
What’s Included
The Heal My Heartache Course provides the practices, guidance, and support needed to heal deeply, transform long-standing relational patterns, and build a strong and resilient internal foundation.
Six Deep-Transformational Video Modules
Each module includes multiple videos, downloadable audio, and the accompanying article or transcript.
These modules guide you step-by-step through the journey of heartbreak healing —
helping you:
diffuse and metabolize overwhelming emotions
dissolve fixation and looping
unwind unhealthy relational patterns
build a healthier new internal foundation
understand how attachment wounds shape your relationships
You’ll gain clarity on the unconscious dynamics driving your suffering and learn how to transform them from the inside out.
A Comprehensive Emotional Framework for Understanding Heartbreak
You will gain an in-depth understanding of:
why heartbreak hurts so intensely
how early relational patterns shape attraction and attachment
why old trauma resurfaces during loss
how early experiences shape your emotional responses and remain stored in the body
how to metabolize experiences that were once too overwhelming to face
This framework gives you the clarity and direction needed to move through heartbreak and other forms of adversity — and the emotions tied to them — consciously and effectively.
Intensive Meditation Practices That Awaken Your Body and Mind’s Innate Healing Intelligence
These practices form the core of your transformation.
Transform and digest the trauma, emotions, and memories stored in your chest, diaphragm, gut, and nervous system
You learn to work with the full range of your emotional responses — accessing the internal regions where emotional pain, trauma, attachment wounds, and other relational memories live, so they can be metabolized and transformed into clarity, strength, and grounded presence.
Dissolve fixation and obsessive attachments
These practices unwind the emotional and neurological loops that keep you stuck in longing, looping thoughts, and emotional collapse.
Unwind the relational patterns that fuel anxiety, inconsistency, and emotional over-functioning
As the internal structures driving your patterns transform, your external relationships shift accordingly.
Stabilize your inner world and develop true inner clarity
Triggers lose their intensity.
Instead of collapsing into overwhelm, you learn to remain steady.
As your system becomes calmer and clearer, you feel far more grounded.
Rebuild internal safety and the capacity for healthy connection
You learn to stay present with yourself in challenging moments — with people, situations, or emotions that once caused you to shut down or disconnect.
This internal safety becomes the foundation for healthier relationships and secure attachment.
Dissolve unhealthy attachments and restore presence
These practices help you release the emotional entanglements that once held you captive — gaining inner freedom and emotional autonomy.
As these shifts take root, your relational field changes:
You stop seeking validation through others.
You become more embodied and present.
You begin drawing in people who resonate with who you truly are — not who you’re trying to prove yourself to be.
One-on-One Healing Sessions (Included with Every Enrollment)
Every student receives personalized one-on-one sessions with me.
These sessions include deep intuitive guidance, emotional processing, somatic work, and personalized practices based on your specific needs.
Relational patterns run extraordinarily deep — often seeded in childhood and reinforced over a lifetime. They cannot be unraveled by willpower or intellectual understanding alone. Most people need intervention and support that helps them access levels of emotional wounding they cannot reach on their own.
In these sessions, we work directly with:
- the trauma and emotional imprints stored in your body
- attachment wounds
- the pain of loss, abandonment, or inconsistency
- nervous system shock
- the patterns that keep repeating in your relationships
For many, these sessions create the most profound breakthroughs of the entire course.
This is where the deepest transformation occurs.
What I See Happen in the People I Work With
When people fully engage in this work, profound shifts begin to take place.
They digest their relational trauma, and the highly charged emotions bound to old experiences are transformed into fuel for growth.
The obsessive attachments that once consumed them begin to dissolve.
They stop clinging so tightly.
Looping thoughts, fantasies, and other debilitating emotional patterns lose their grip.
They become calmer and more grounded, experiencing a growing sense of lightness, wellbeing, and inner coherence.
They feel more embodied — more present in the way they move through the world.
Frequently Asked Questions
Most therapy helps you understand your experiences — giving you insight, context, and a place to process your story.
Most coaching helps you change patterns of thought and behavior — offering structure, accountability, and practical strategies.
Both can be valuable.
But for many people, especially those experiencing heartbreak or struggling with attachment wounds, insight and strategy alone are not enough to create deep, lasting change.
This work goes deeper.
It works directly with the emotional, somatic, nervous system, and relational dimensions of heartbreak — the layers where fixation, trauma, and attachment wounds actually live.
You are not just “talking about” your pain.
You are digesting it, transforming it, and rebuilding your internal foundation from the inside out.
This is a depth-oriented, experiential process that integrates emotional digestion, somatic healing, nervous-system recalibration, and the lineage-based practices I’ve spent decades mastering.
No.
Everything is taught step-by-step, and the practices are adapted to your emotional state and your capacity in each moment.
This course is designed for people who are overwhelmed, heartbroken, destabilized, and struggling to stay present.
You don’t need discipline or experience — only willingness.
Yes.
While the circumstances differ, the underlying wounds — attachment, longing, loss, identity collapse, emotional overwhelm — follow the same physiological and psychological patterns.
This course supports a wide range of heartbreak and loss, including:
- breakup or separation
- divorce
- ghosting
- betrayal or infidelity
- repeated rejection
- unrequited love
- loss of a loved one
- loss of a dog or cat
- relationship patterns rooted in early trauma
If your heart is hurting, this work will meet you where you are.
In ancient spiritual traditions — Taoist, Hindu-Vedic, Tibetan, Indigenous, and many others — intensive daily practice was always understood as essential for healing and developing the body and mind.
The same principle applies here.
Ideally, I encourage you to dedicate at least an hour a day to the meditation and emotional digestion practices.
That may sound like a lot but consider how much time is lost to:
- scrolling
- television
- overthinking
- numbing the pain
- And far more — the years lost to painful reenactments and unnecessary suffering.
That said, I understand the reality of modern life — long workdays, commuting, children, responsibilities, and exhaustion.
If an hour isn’t possible, do what you can.
Even 15–20 minutes can begin to shift your emotional and neurological patterns.
You can integrate aspects of these practices into daily life — walking, doing chores, commuting, caring for children, or winding down at night.
I also encourage incorporating the therapeutic interventions recommended throughout the course. These enable deeper healing — transforming the wounded parts of the self you cannot reach through practice alone.
The video modules are self-paced, and your one-on-one sessions with me are scheduled individually.
The more consistently you work with the practices and interventions, the more quickly and deeply you’ll transform — and the course remains manageable even when you are overwhelmed or emotionally exhausted.
Every enrollment includes one, three, or five individual sessions, depending on the option chosen.
I include these sessions because they often create the most powerful transformations.
The modules and practices provide the foundation — but the one-on-one work accesses deeper layers and facilitates profound healing that cannot be done entirely on your own.
In these sessions, we work directly with:
- the trauma and emotional imprints held in your system
- attachment wounds
- the pain of loss, heartbreak, abandonment, or inconsistency
- nervous-system shock
- the relational patterns that keep repeating
Many people experience breakthroughs that change them at a core level — shifting the trajectory of their healing and the course of their lives.
This is why these sessions are essential.
Remote Sessions (Phone or Internet)
Remote sessions provide a powerful way to stabilize, digest, and transform heartbreak.
These sessions focus on:
meditation practices that specifically address your emotional wounding and current relational challenges
digesting your lived experience and the emotions tied to it
unraveling fixation and looping thoughts
healing deeper attachment wounds that shape your relationships
restoring a sense of calm, centeredness, and stability
cultivating presence and clarity
For many, remote work is more than enough to create deep and lasting change — especially when practiced consistently.
It is ideal if you are not local, if you travel, prefer working from home, or need ongoing support between in-person sessions.
The practices taught in remote sessions form the core foundation of the healing process.
In-Person Individual Healing Sessions
When we are in the same location, I offer deeply immersive sessions integrating emotional, somatic, energetic, and structural work in a single session.
Stage 1 — Dialogue and Assessment
We begin with a grounded conversation to understand where you are, what you’re feeling, and what your system is carrying.
I then scan your body to feel and read emotional wounding, relational patterns, and the deeper layers shaping your responses.
Stage 2 — Guided Meditation Practices
I then guide you through the same meditation practices I teach remotely — but practiced together, which creates a deeper, more immediate shift in presence, awareness, and internal coherence.
Stage 3 — The Transformational Healing Work
This is where the deepest transformation occurs.
Having trained with a traditional Native American doctor from the Kiowa Tribe — a medicine man — I work as a conduit, in the same way Indigenous healers have done for thousands of years. During these sessions, many people feel this presence working within them — facilitating the healing of their bodies and minds, mending broken hearts and other deep emotional wounds, restoring their sense of connection, increasing their capacity to love and be loved, and building the internal resources needed to realize their true potential.
Those who have experienced this work often describe entering a profoundly deep trance or dreamlike state. In that state, trauma and stagnant emotional residue are transformed and digested at a deep level, allowing a new internal foundation to form. People come out feeling lighter, freer, clearer, and with far greater internal resources available to navigate life.
As the body opens and your range of motion increases, you become more embodied, more functional, and more capable of engaging fully with the world around you.
Why In-Person Sessions Are Especially Powerful for Heartbreak and Relational Trauma
These sessions help you:
digest the lived experience of loss — the emotional residue tied to the relationship and the nervous system shock resulting from abandonment, betrayal, or other forms of sudden relational rupture.
re-pattern attachment wounds
rebuild your emotional core
People often leave feeling lighter, calmer, clearer, and more grounded.
Which Option Should I Choose?
If you live near me, plan to travel to see me, or if I visit your city — in-person sessions are strongly recommended. They offer a level of depth and immediacy that cannot be replicated remotely.
If not, remote sessions remain deeply powerful and form the ongoing foundation of your transformation.
Contact Me
Call me at (332) 333-5155—or better yet, call and message to ensure I receive it. The work I do is highly personalized, so we’ll set up a time to talk, discuss your needs, and see if this is the right fit for you. If we choose to move forward, we’ll schedule your first session.
My Lineage
My healing journey began in adolescence. At twenty, I began my training with Horace Daukei, one of the last surviving traditional doctors of the Kiowa Tribe of Oklahoma. Horace transmitted portions of his own healing gifts to me and then sent me out on the vision quest—a traditional Native healing practice of fasting alone in the mountains for four days and nights without food or water—to earn the right to work with these gifts. Since then, I have continued to return to the Wichita Mountains for the vision quest in the spring and fall.
In 1992, I began seventeen years of intensive training with Chinese Master Shifu Li Tai Liang in the Taoist internal martial arts of Xin Yi Quan, Baguazhang, Tai Chi, and Chi Gong. This foundation helped me develop internal strength, deep body awareness, and a practical understanding of how these practices facilitate healing and transformation—something I now integrate into my work with others.
In my mid-twenties, the resurfacing of childhood and adolescent trauma led me to develop an intensive series of meditation practices that activate the body and mind’s innate healing intelligence. These practices facilitate the digestion of one's lived experiences and emotions, transforming pain into fuel for growth and, in the process, cultivating greater resilience.
For over three and a half decades, I have worked with thousands to facilitate the healing of bodies, minds, broken hearts, and other trauma and deep emotional wounds, while helping them increase their capacity to love and be loved, realize their true potential, and fulfill their life’s purpose.
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